I have absolutely no problem meeting members of the opposite sex. In the bars that I frequent, often in foreign cities, the girls seem very keen to introduce themselves to me and are very forward in engaging me in conversation. Furthermore they love my sense of humour, laugh at all my jokes, tell me that I am a very handsome man, and some even on occasion tell me that they love me.

My problem though Annie is that absolutely none of them ever take their turn in buying a round. Now I consider myself to be a true gent and expect that in female company it is my responsibility to put my hand in my pocket, but I do feel that on occasions it would be nice to be offered a drink by my various companions. I just can't help but feel that this thought doesn't even cross their minds. For instance the other evening I bought one particular lady eight drinks in a row and despite becoming increasingly amorous she made no attempt to reciprocate.

How is it best for me to approach this delicate topic or am I missing something here ?

Yours,

'what another glass of champagne ?' of Tunaville

What is the matter with me ? My current job means that I travel a great deal, often to exotic locations. In one such city, I have met a lady who would seem to meet all my requirements. She is very attractive and takes care of my every need, including domestic chores like ironing. I think the world of her and I am sure this feeling is mutual.

However, on my last visit, which was admittedly very brief, I forwent the opportunity of seeing her, to explore the more seedy side of the city. I went to a bar where I have become something of a 'face' and was accorded a hero's welcome. The women there seem to love me for some reason ! Unfortunately one thing led to another and I somewhat ashamedly have to admit 'played away from home'. This is not the first time this has happened and I am now worried that I have become something of a 'sex-aholic'. Do you think this is the case, as I don't seem able to exercise any self-discipline ?

Annie, please help to put my mind at rest.

Yours,

ashamed of Tunaville

Are you a bit of loner? I don't think you are becoming a sex-aholic, more of a serial shagger, which is not quite the same thing. However, if your concerns persist please write to me in confidence with a s.a.e. and I will give you the name of a clinic where you can speak to a Sex Specialist who will be more able to correctly diagnose your sexual excesses.

Please help. I have just returned from an overseas business trip on which I was accompanied by my new girlfriend. This is the first time she has come with me and it proved a welcome change to have someone to converse with who was not involved in the company.

The problem was one of my work colleagues. He is a decent chap and someone I am quite pleased to spend some time with, under normal circumstances. Except on this trip, he did not seem to appreciate that I was with my new partner. After a hard day's work, I would choose to relax with her and escape the conversations that I could hear from the bar about the latest 'sales figures'. He would however seek us out and start talking business. There was one absurd incident when my girlfriend and I escaped at midnight to sit romantically on a deserted beach to watch the stars and the full moon, only to be joined by my colleague who wanted my ideas on the latest developments in the telecommunications industry. There was truly no escape!

Annie what can I do. I don't wish to be rude and tell the guy bluntly to 'p*ss-off' but there seems no alternative,

Yours despairingly,

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